Girl, you’re more beautiful without makeup on

You know what line I’ve seen recycled so many times? “You’re more beautiful without makeup on”.

Guys think they’re being all cute and shit because they know that girls are often insecure about their looks and guys believe saying something like this will help show girls that they’re “not like the other guys” who are only attracted to them when they’re dolled up. That statement is both false and insulting.

Most guys will say they don’t want a girl who wears a lot of makeup. Most guys are also dumb as hell and when girls do their makeup correctly, guys can’t even tell that they’re wearing makeup. What guys mean is, they like girls who wear natural-looking makeup, which takes skill, effort, and time to do well.

If no girls wore makeup, our standards of beauty would be quite different, but unfortunately, that’s not the case. Thus, suggesting that a girl should not wear makeup is ridiculous, because our society compares girls without makeup on to the girls in magazines, TV, movies, and in real life who DO wear makeup. Guess which ones have the advantage? Likewise, you could tell me I look better in my t-shirt and boxers after I just wake up than I do after I get cleaned up and put on a nice fitted suit, but you’d be lying to me, wouldn’t you?

So tell me, if someone puts in time, effort, and energy to enhance their face in certain favorable ways with makeup, why would you tell this person that they look worse after? That’s just idiotic. Makeup done correctly should make you look better. Period.

I decided to post this entry because I saw Vampy, a professional cosplayer named Linda Le, post up pictures of herself without makeup on up on Instagram. I’ve seen her in person. Without makeup on, she’s far from ugly, but with makeup on she is smokin hot.

For comparison:

But there are so many guys who commented on the picture and they said “Vampy, you look so much better without makeup on”. Well… why you lying to her for? Do you think it boosts her self-esteem to know that a random person is essentially telling her that when she puts on makeup she looks worse?

The key point, and the most important thing that a girl should take from reading this entry, is not that I or other guys think you’re ugly without makeup on. It’s that guys, whether they’re conscious of their actions or not, are using lines they’ve picked up because of what they assume girls want to hear. If a guy isn’t in love with you, and he tells you some bullshit about how you look better without makeup on, it’s either a blatant lie or he has really bad judgment. Beauty is incredibly subjective, but if you objectively put a stick figure sketch next to the ceiling mural at the Sistine Chapel, 99.9% of people should be able to pick which one is considered a better drawing.

When a guy is in love (or even strong like), objectiveness goes out the window, and so looks matter a lot less. I’ll think you’re hot as hell when you put in that effort and get dressed up, but when we wake up the next morning and I see you with no makeup on, my attraction to you doesn’t wane at all. The physical part is objective, but emotions reign supreme.

If we’re not objectively comparing a stick figure next to the ceiling mural at the Sistine Chapel, but we let our emotions (ie. LOVE) bring a certain subjectiveness into the equation, then it is possible for someone to find the stick figure to be a better drawing. Say the stick figure drawing holds incredible sentimental value. Your favorite artist sketched it for you right before they were hit by a bus so it was the last piece of art they ever created and you hold it dearly to your heart. While objectively you would say the Sistine Chapel mural is universally accepted as more beautiful, the sketch holds a beauty that no one other than yourself could understand.

So girls, I know most of you don’t believe stupid guys when they tell you you look better with no makeup on, as evident by how you continue to watch YouTube makeup guru videos, how you still have a giant bag of makeup, and how you still continue to use makeup, but please do believe the guys who love you when they tell you that you’re beautiful (which goes much deeper than just what you look like).

And guys, stop spouting bullshit lines. Girls are pressured enough by society to look good that they don’t need you lying to them about what you like as well.

In retrospect, this entry has a ton of organizational issues and I’m not sure if my message is even clear, but I’ve edited it too many times that I need to post it regardless.

11 Comments

  1. huh
    September 19, 2012
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    u generalize too much

    • vietiscool
      September 19, 2012
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      I like attempting to understand the opinions of the masses so I have to put myself in their shoes and then project what I believe to be their line of reasoning. It probably doesn’t work all the time, but I like to think that I have a good enough understanding of how people think that I am able make accurate generalizations for/about the common people.

  2. Vinh
    September 19, 2012
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    You need a better comparison than a stick figure drawing and the Sistine Chapel. If you’re going to use the same girl in your example, then you need to use the same canvas. Maybe the Sistine Chapel with color and without color would be a better choice.

    I’ve seen, and I’m sure you have too, girls who don’t wear make-up who are prettier than girls who do wear make-up. That essentially goes against your argument regarding the stick figure and Sistine Chapel. How would you explain that? I’m actually interested in what you think. And if you reply that that girl who does not wear make-up could look even better if she wore make-up, then I’d say you are indeed generalizing as the poster above me stated. Make-up does not always make a girl’s features more flattering.

    And it’s all preference. Some of those guys could really, genuinely mean it when they say the girl looks better without make-up because they prefer a girl without make-up or…because they really do look better without make-up lol.

    • vietiscool
      September 19, 2012
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      You’re right about the comparison. That analogy was used to show the difference in objective and subjective judgment, but it was a pretty terrible analogy. I made it up at 4 am and I do see a lot of flaws with using that model. Ignore that.

      Unfortunately, I will have to generalize based off my experiences and say that I think that a pretty girl who doesn’t wear make-up would probably look better if she put on some make-up. I’m not saying that it will make a huge difference, but I’m saying that done correctly, she’s not gonna look worse from it.

      This generalization comes not just from looking at people’s faces, but just by living life. I have not met one girl whose face I thought was so perfect that it could not be improved in any way, but more than that, I have not seen one thing in this world that is perfect or incapable of improvement. Why would a face be any different?

      I will stand by my point that make-up done correctly will make ANYBODY (guy or girl) look better. I’m gonna have to talk to some more girls and see what they think about this.

      • Vinh
        September 20, 2012
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        Interesting way to think about it when you say nothing is perfect and everything can be improved upon. Very interesting actually, and I have no reply to that at the moment lol. Thought-provoking nonetheless.

        Another funny thought that I had while reading your initial post, it’s a no-win situation for guys regarding their opinion on girls and make-up lol. If you tell a girl she’s more beautiful without make-up, then you risk insulting her efforts (as you say). If you promote the use of make-up, then you’re essentially saying,”Your face isn’t good enough, it can be better.” Give the guys credit for choosing the lesser of two evils: insult her efforts or insult her face. Which would you choose?

        • vietiscool
          September 20, 2012
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          That’s why you make no mention to the make-up situation.

          Part of the reason I wrote the entry is because I don’t like guys directly referencing and making comparisons between girls with or without make-up on.

          If I cared for a girl I wouldn’t tell them they’re more or less beautiful in any particular situation. Lessers and greaters are no-nos. I would just leave it as a plain statement of fact that they ARE beautiful. (or that I find them beautiful).

          When she’s put in a lot of effort and is made-up I would tell her she’s beautiful. In her mind, she may think “oh he only thinks I’m beautiful when I put on all this make-up and get dressed up”, but that’s ok, because if you stop there, then she’s right about what you think.

          The true follow-up comes when she has no make-up on, and I would still tell her she’s beautiful. Then her previous worries should slowly dissipate and she’ll think “well, I didn’t really do anything special, but he still told me the same exact thing he told me when I was made-up, so he clearly doesn’t only find me beautiful with make-up on”.

          What that means is, don’t bring the notion of lessers and greaters into compliments. This seems counter-intuitive because we’re used to saying stuff like “Vinh, your jumpshot is looking better” rather than “Vinh, your jumpshot is looking really good”, but most things in life can be improved on over time and with effort.

          You’re pretty much stuck with the looks you’re born with so there’s no possibility for improvement outside of make-up/preparation. (and plastic surgery). That’s why I don’t like the line “You’re more beautiful without makeup on”. Brings in lessers and greaters AND brings in LIES.

          So there you have it. My take on how to speak truthfully and not have it bite you in the ass. Cultivated from years of speaking truths and making sure I don’t get my ass beat or hurt feelings unintentionally.

          • Vinh
            September 20, 2012
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            Nicely stated. Thanks for the insightful, thoughtout replies. They’re always appreciated. Until next time.

  3. vietiscool
    September 20, 2012
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    Thank you for reading and commenting! I feel like blogging is so narcissistic that any comments or feedback are a welcome break.

  4. Q
    December 3, 2012
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    but at the end of the day, all guys just need to stfu and work on how they look and enjoy that girls already do that soooooo excessively. i dont care what that be for him, whether its grooming facial hair or brushing up style or working out. guys can ogle, since theyre gna do that anyway, but their opinions are unnecessary. if she look good, u can let her know, but dont go into it. it’s the silliest thing when simple conceptions try to get complex. dudes need to chill. sit back and enjoy the scenery. if u dont enjoy it, move. lord. one of my best guy friends--‘upper tier’ of the good lookin range, most would say--sometimes does this bullshit dissecting of chicks’ looks. I don’t care if he’s baggin the hottest bitches (and he does, and has, consistently), but he’s always needed to stfu. n I tell him that. men dont realize how much more attractive they are when they keep their mouths shut on things they don’t need to be commenting on. not being sexist. works the other way around too. girls are not more attractive when they wax poetic on their imaginary fantasy football lineups.

  5. Melo
    June 6, 2013
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    Hello! :) This was very fell written and I agree with most of it! But I do actually have something that I would like to mention.
    My girlfriend has extremely low self-esteem due to being bullied so the first time she decided to show herself without make-up she was in tears.
    But strangely I liked her more when she was without make-up. I am not saying she looks prettier without make-up but I just felt more attracted to her and the urge to kiss and hold her close to me got so much stronger!

    Again, I really liked your post! :)

    /Melo

    • Melo
      June 6, 2013
      Reply

      Woops! well*

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