You know what line I’ve seen recycled so many times? “You’re more beautiful without makeup on”.
Guys think they’re being all cute and shit because they know that girls are often insecure about their looks and guys believe saying something like this will help show girls that they’re “not like the other guys” who are only attracted to them when they’re dolled up. That statement is both false and insulting.
Most guys will say they don’t want a girl who wears a lot of makeup. Most guys are also dumb as hell and when girls do their makeup correctly, guys can’t even tell that they’re wearing makeup. What guys mean is, they like girls who wear natural-looking makeup, which takes skill, effort, and time to do well.
If no girls wore makeup, our standards of beauty would be quite different, but unfortunately, that’s not the case. Thus, suggesting that a girl should not wear makeup is ridiculous, because our society compares girls without makeup on to the girls in magazines, TV, movies, and in real life who DO wear makeup. Guess which ones have the advantage? Likewise, you could tell me I look better in my t-shirt and boxers after I just wake up than I do after I get cleaned up and put on a nice fitted suit, but you’d be lying to me, wouldn’t you?
So tell me, if someone puts in time, effort, and energy to enhance their face in certain favorable ways with makeup, why would you tell this person that they look worse after? That’s just idiotic. Makeup done correctly should make you look better. Period.
I decided to post this entry because I saw Vampy, a professional cosplayer named Linda Le, post up pictures of herself without makeup on up on Instagram. I’ve seen her in person. Without makeup on, she’s far from ugly, but with makeup on she is smokin hot.
But there are so many guys who commented on the picture and they said “Vampy, you look so much better without makeup on”. Well… why you lying to her for? Do you think it boosts her self-esteem to know that a random person is essentially telling her that when she puts on makeup she looks worse?
The key point, and the most important thing that a girl should take from reading this entry, is not that I or other guys think you’re ugly without makeup on. It’s that guys, whether they’re conscious of their actions or not, are using lines they’ve picked up because of what they assume girls want to hear. If a guy isn’t in love with you, and he tells you some bullshit about how you look better without makeup on, it’s either a blatant lie or he has really bad judgment. Beauty is incredibly subjective, but if you objectively put a stick figure sketch next to the ceiling mural at the Sistine Chapel, 99.9% of people should be able to pick which one is considered a better drawing.
When a guy is in love (or even strong like), objectiveness goes out the window, and so looks matter a lot less. I’ll think you’re hot as hell when you put in that effort and get dressed up, but when we wake up the next morning and I see you with no makeup on, my attraction to you doesn’t wane at all. The physical part is objective, but emotions reign supreme.
If we’re not objectively comparing a stick figure next to the ceiling mural at the Sistine Chapel, but we let our emotions (ie. LOVE) bring a certain subjectiveness into the equation, then it is possible for someone to find the stick figure to be a better drawing. Say the stick figure drawing holds incredible sentimental value. Your favorite artist sketched it for you right before they were hit by a bus so it was the last piece of art they ever created and you hold it dearly to your heart. While objectively you would say the Sistine Chapel mural is universally accepted as more beautiful, the sketch holds a beauty that no one other than yourself could understand.
So girls, I know most of you don’t believe stupid guys when they tell you you look better with no makeup on, as evident by how you continue to watch YouTube makeup guru videos, how you still have a giant bag of makeup, and how you still continue to use makeup, but please do believe the guys who love you when they tell you that you’re beautiful (which goes much deeper than just what you look like).
And guys, stop spouting bullshit lines. Girls are pressured enough by society to look good that they don’t need you lying to them about what you like as well.
In retrospect, this entry has a ton of organizational issues and I’m not sure if my message is even clear, but I’ve edited it too many times that I need to post it regardless.